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Pet Peeves

Published January 22, 2014 in Uncategorized - 0 Comments

We all have them. Persistent annoyances that seem to bother us more than they bother others – or that bother us more than the situation might warrant. Drivers who drive slow in the left lane. People (who shall remain nameless) who leave the cap off the toothpaste.


Pet Peeves are a special category of our unconscious reaction/response to stress habits – with a special added twist. We get to blame the situation or the person for our responses, especially our emotions. As in “People who leave the cap off the toothpaste make me so MAD!” But the truth is other people are not to blame for our emotions, reactions and responses. Taiji teaches us an important distinction between a trigger and a cause. Our pet peeves may trigger our reactions (yer darn tootin’!) – be we have the power to choose our responses. We are the cause of our eventual behavior.

Long story short – Pet Peeves are a Flow Killer. Actually they’re a double Flow Killer because they not only disrupt my own Flow but they also cut me off from a whole category of experiences or human beings who might otherwise enrich my life. Taiji teaches us that how we habitually do one thing has a tendency to be how we habitually do everything. If you have a couple of known Pet Peeves that you admit – then you may have twice as many secret and hidden pet peeves. For every taxi driver or turn signal abuser that you blame for your road rage, there is a secret blame that you harbor against a loved one, a co-worker or next door neighbor. Little by little, they eat away at the relationship.

By the way – best comment yet on Pet Peeves (courtesy of Kristen Onderdonk): “I used to have a pet peeve but I forgot to feed it and it died!”

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